Selfishness is often seen as a bad trait and an insult. Many times I have heard the words “that's so selfish!” or “he is so selfish!”. Naturally when we are called this it's insulting and if someone is associated with this word we know he has bad qualities.
Though I beg to differ that, after all, selfishness in itself isn't a bad thing. In fact I believe it is necessary. We must put ourselves first and be there for ourselves when nobody is there. Afterall who else will save you? Who else will protect you? If we have no value worthy of saving, then when we are selfless our sacrifices won't matter because we were just pawns.
Being selfish often gets a bad name because of the receiving end, maybe it means cutting off a person who doesn't see their faults, or abandoning the ones you once said you would never abandon. Don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying leave those loyal to you, quite the opposite. I’m saying to remove the anchors, remove the people who don’t believe in you, the people who project their own hatred and beliefs on to you.
Most people are not successful because they hang on to their “friends” because they are “good people”. Only keep the friends that are on the same path as you, who truly wants what is best for you. Though most people keep these friends, most people are NOT successful. Most people never get where they want to be. Most people are insecure losers who care what other people think.
If you can’t be yourself, then guess what, you provide no value to yourself nor the world. People won't understand and so they see you as a bad person now, as someone who only cares about yourself and is narcissistic. But in this sort it is crucial we put ourselves first, that above everyone else we are first.
There is a quote from a book called “crying in Hmart” where the mom often tells her daughter “save 10 percent of yourself” and this means no matter how drastic a secret you must keep, no matter the information, feelings, or intent, keep 10 percent of yourself. Once anyone or anything begins to deplete your last 10 percent, this is your sign to save that, forget the situation, and be selfish.
Of course I'm not disregarding the very much needed sacrifice or selflessness, rather what I'm saying is that, your sacrifice is worthless without any value, if your only value is found in others.
Though I beg to differ that, after all, selfishness in itself isn't a bad thing. In fact I believe it is necessary. We must put ourselves first and be there for ourselves when nobody is there. Afterall who else will save you? Who else will protect you? If we have no value worthy of saving, then when we are selfless our sacrifices won't matter because we were just pawns.
Being selfish often gets a bad name because of the receiving end, maybe it means cutting off a person who doesn't see their faults, or abandoning the ones you once said you would never abandon. Don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying leave those loyal to you, quite the opposite. I’m saying to remove the anchors, remove the people who don’t believe in you, the people who project their own hatred and beliefs on to you.
Most people are not successful because they hang on to their “friends” because they are “good people”. Only keep the friends that are on the same path as you, who truly wants what is best for you. Though most people keep these friends, most people are NOT successful. Most people never get where they want to be. Most people are insecure losers who care what other people think.
If you can’t be yourself, then guess what, you provide no value to yourself nor the world. People won't understand and so they see you as a bad person now, as someone who only cares about yourself and is narcissistic. But in this sort it is crucial we put ourselves first, that above everyone else we are first.
There is a quote from a book called “crying in Hmart” where the mom often tells her daughter “save 10 percent of yourself” and this means no matter how drastic a secret you must keep, no matter the information, feelings, or intent, keep 10 percent of yourself. Once anyone or anything begins to deplete your last 10 percent, this is your sign to save that, forget the situation, and be selfish.
Of course I'm not disregarding the very much needed sacrifice or selflessness, rather what I'm saying is that, your sacrifice is worthless without any value, if your only value is found in others.